Puppy shies away when you try to pick her up
I have a 4 mth. old Yorkie/Maltese mix (that weighs 3 lbs.) that will not come to me when called and when you are sitting down she will come over to you and jump up and down on your leg to come up in your lap with you but as soon as you reach down to get her, she backs away and won't let you pick her up.
She will do this 3 or 4 times and then just walks away and doesn't come back. Yet, when it's bedtime she jumps on the side of the bed to get up on the bed for bedtime and lets me pick her up and she's just fine on the bed at night and comes to me with no problem and curls up next to me to sleep. I also cannot catch her when it's time to put her in her crate when I leave or to just pick her up to talk to her or for whatever reason.
I have tried just holding her and talking to her and reassuring her that no one is going to hurt her but it hasn't seemed to help. And it's not just me, no one can get her to come to them. She started this after I tapped her on the end of the nose a few weeks ago for biting at me when I was brushing her. She starting getting really aggressive and getting nasty about brushing her and when the vet looked at her teeth she snapped at him too and I had to put a stop to it so I tapped her on the end of the nose for biting me and told her "no" very sternly, and ever since then she is skittish about coming to us. So I know why she's this way, but I can't get her to trust us again and realize that I am not going to hurt her.
I have tried treats to include chicken, etc. and nothing has helped. I realize now that the tap on the nose was a big mistake but that was my first reaction and I have never had any problems raising a puppy before and I have raised many of them, although none of them have been tiny dogs like this one. Any ideas on how to get her over this fear?
I think in this situation it's simply going to take some time and patience on your part.
You know why your puppy is acting this way which is a good thing. She seems okay when it's bedtime, so it's not that she's mortally afraid of you (or anyone else), more that she's just a bit anxious in general and probably a little 'hand-shy' since you tapped her nose.
Although, you didn't really hurt her, you obviously scared her quite a bit, and this is one of the reasons why any sort of physical punishment should never be used when correcting pups.
I would just give her time to get over this by herself. Like most puppies she will want your attention and affection, and if you just let her come to you when she wants picked up etc., and don't try to 'force' her it will work out more quickly.
Obviously, making sure your puppy comes to you when called, is very important. However, she needs to feel secure again before you can begin that sort of training.
I don't think any real damage has been done, and as long as you treat her gently and lovingly (and don't punish her in any other way other than with a firm voice etc.)she will regain her confidence soon.
Best of luck.