My 1yr Old Staffy WON'T Sleep Alone
I have tried everything. She has a crate she loves, A bed she loves, we have tried a baby gate so she KNOWS where we are. Nothing is working.
I wouldn't mind just waiting until she gets tired of moaning, whining and biting and shaking the baby gate but we have to work in the morning and it makes a racket. We don't give in to her noise, we simply wait until we can't take any more (usually around 3am) and when she takes a break, one of us will let her in. we THOUGHT it would keep her from thinking she is training US! Didn't work.
I am on my THIRD night, my partner is snoring in the bedroom and it is - AGAIN - 3am. I've come out to the living room, I've ignored her and turned on the computer to write this. She has the nerve to be SNORING NEXT TO ME NOW! AAAaaargh!
We thought she was food oriented, she isn't. If she wants something - that is what she wants and NOTHING and no one is going to distract her. Positive reinforcement - HA! - all the "good girls" in the world roll off her back like she is entitled to them.
She is trained to sit, when she feels like it. She will come when called - if she feels like it - OR if she thinks you're going to leave her. The only iron clad training that we have NO doubts about is street crossing, she will sit and wait for hours until we tell her to cross.
I have NO experience with this breed, I had NO idea how difficult they are. All of my other dogs were like plush toys compared to her. This dog will only eat every other day, and then only if it's something she wants, she has the most disgusting gas I have EVER heard, let alone smelled. She is fascinated by poop. ANY POOP! It is like candy to her! You have to be on guard every second you are out of the house or she will find some and eat it - or roll in it!
I thought we were doing everything right. We fixed her when the vet said she was ready, we have socialised her in the park and she has some great puppy friends. She gets 3 to 4 long walks every day. Dear God what else can we DO???!
I would give in and let her in to our room, but the bed is just way too small for her too...and it grosses me out. She rolls in POOP! I bath her, but it was still POOP!
ANY IDEAS PLEASE??? She is a lovely dog and we wouldn't be with out her, she just turns into a whingy BRAT when it's bed time.
It sounds that overall you've done most things just right and that your dog is actually pretty normal and well-behaved.... but she's obviously got a stubborn streak (very common in Staffys and other 'bully' breeds) and right now it's a battle of wills, which you are losing!
You will need to resign yourself to losing a few nights sleep (and perhaps arrange to take it in turns with your partner) and grit your teeth and 'stick it out'. DO NOT give in to her, even if it's 3am and she's been quiet for 5 minutes, she's obviously smart enough to see through that and isn't fooled. You have to be more determined than she is, or accept that she's going to be your bed-mate for the years to come.
You're not being cruel or asking too much of her, and although she doesn't like it she will need to accept it. It's simply a matter of time, and whose nerves are stronger.... make sure it's yours :o) And she WILL learn, it just takes time, consistency and patience, so stay with it and don't give in or you just set yourself back by another two nights for each time you 'cave'.
She's a lovely dog, and staffys are fantastic dogs, so it's worth the effort to get over this. Best of luck.