breaking the bond
I just got an 11 week old shepherd/collie cross a few weeks ago, he stalks my girlfriend, won't leave her side, he won't come to me when i call him if she's there(we live together, so she's always around ). I need to break this routine. He's going to be a big dog and i can foresee some SERIOUS issues if he won't listen to me or take to training.
My other dog(4 year old pit bull) i have trained very nicely,i snap my fingers he comes.point in a direction he follows,i talk he listens.so i figured i'd have two well trained dogs...but.. maybe i'm impatient,after all he is only 11 weeks old, but even still. i've trained him to go to the door and ask to go out, coming to me shouldn't be any more difficult. shepherds and collies are both very smart dogs.so maybe its a protective thing,my girlfriend is the shy.quiet,suck-assy type,whereas i am not,there could be a thousand and one reasons as to why he's such a ladies man, but i need it to stop.any suggestions?
It's difficult for me to say what is going on here, but from what you've written I think you're perhaps 'coming on too strong' with this pup and he's feeling anxious and a bit overwhelmed (even a little afraid) by you. That could be why he's staying close to your girlfriend, as he doesn't feel threatened by her.
German Shepherds and Collies are indeed very intelligent dogs, and very eager to please the people they love and trust. However, they're also very sensitive dogs and are very 'in tune' with peoples' emotions. Just because your Pitbull responded well to one style of training it doesn't mean that this new pup will react the same way.
Raising puppies is like raising kids, and they all need a slightly different approach or different tactics. There's no 'one-size-fits-all' way of raising kids - or dogs!
If you want your pup to bond with you, you are going to need to get him to trust you, and to see that you are the provider of all good things. That means you need to be the one who feeds him, walks him, trains him, gives him treats, pets him, grooms him and so on MOST of the time. That doesn't mean your girlfriend shouldn't interact with him, that would be a mistake as he needs to trust and bond with you both, but you need to be his 90% caretaker.
Intelligent dogs don't need harsh or physical corrections or an overly 'authorative' attitude, even if they are big, in fact this often causes problems rather than solves them. You want your pup to WANT to obey you, not be forced into it. This wanting comes from him loving and trusting you, so that's your goal.
And you are right to say that perhaps you're being impatient, he's only 11 weeks old, and big dogs mature more slowly than smaller ones, he's still just a baby and needs love, attention, patience and LOVING discipline. There is no reason for there to be big problems or for him not to 'take to' training if you approach it right, I think with a bit of moderation in your approach you will be able to overcome his reticence and bond with him properly.
Just take it slowly and don't overwhelm him. I wish you the best of luck.